Bonjour.

I suck at introducing my self so I'm just gonna blab bullshit out. My name is Chloe Chin, you can call me Chloe or Kelowee it doesn't really matter lol. Been living on this planet for 14 years (soon to be) I'm a banana incase you're wondering but 我可以读一点点华语 okay. I love my family, my boyfriend, my babes and my friends. Just a normal teenager that likes to laze around, surf the net, eat unhealthy food, mess things up and do what teenagers do. Don't judge what I write here. Please gtfo if you hate me thankyou.

4 simple facts about me.

1 : Taken by someone called Kelvin Chong Kai Wen since 30th April 2013.
2 : I love Justin Drew Bieber.
3 : I am impatient.
4 : I am annoying.

Hello everyone. My very first blogpost here lol. Please disregard my grammar and if whatever I'm saying doesn't make sense, ignore. I'm only 14. Lol. I'm going to talk about effort, yeap.

Effort.

What is effort? 

Right lol, everyone knows what is effort right? Well for me, I think effort is a very important thing in our lives. Like you need effort to continue a friendship/relationship/to success in studies/to success in whatever you're doing. 

Friendship. 

In a friendship, regardless of any friendship eg: bestfriends/normal friends/etc, you'll need effort to continue a friendship. Why? Well it's because without effort you won't be having friends. 

For example you're in a new school where you don't know anyone there and you're a complete stranger there. What do you do? Ofcourse! You make new friends. How do you make new friends? Effort. 

You need to put in effort like going to approach them  & introducing yourself to them and vice versa. Tadaa! Friends made. Easy isn't it? Sounds easy but it actually isn't. Different people different mindset. 

But for me, effort means alot to continue a friendship. Let's just say your bestfriend in class is leaving tomorrow. She/He's leaving because she's shifting to a new school. How do you keep contact? Effort. 

Well for me, I'll definitely talk to them on social networks (whatsapp, etc) to make sure they're fine there and to chitchat about their lives and yack on the phone till late night or something idk. 

But all you need is effort to keep the friendship going. You need both parties to give effort to keep a friendship alive. Imagine if one doesn't find him/her and the other doesn't too, what's going to happen to their friendship? Best friends = Strangers. Sad isn't it? Yeah I know. Effort. 

Relationship. 

It's actually almost the same. To continue a relationship, ofcourse you'll need effort (and trust, love, etc). 

To be honest, most of the relationship end too soon because one party decides to stop putting in effort where as the other one puts alot effort in to make the relationship unbalance then sink. 

For example, 

You see how the relationship falls? Lack of effort. Yeah, that's why. Maybe one gets tired after putting in so much effort and not getting anything in return. That feelings sucks. It feels like that you're not worth it. If one put too much effort in while the other doesn't put anything in, it's unbalance. It's the same. To make an effort is actually very easy. As for girls, guys need to make sure that she feels secured/loved by telling her you miss her, that you love her, that you're afraid to loose her. 

Little things makes girls laugh/happy. It's very easy to keep a relationship going as long as you have faith, trust, love in each other. Ofcourse, effort is needed. You'll have to make sure your partner is feeling okay and all. ( I sound like a love guru lol)  To make a relationship balance, both parties have to put in effort. For example, to make time for each other, to spend time with him/her, to talk to her/him on the phone, to make her/him feel loved you know. Prove it to her/him that you need them in your daily life or else they'll over think (especially for girls). Words mean nothing if you don't prove it. If no action is taken, words are useless. 

So don't even bother saying 'I miss you' when you don't do anything to prove it that you miss your partner. Appreciate your partner while she/he's still there for you. Don't bother regretting after loosing someone great. Don't ever regret if someone that actually treats you well decided to leave you because of your shitty behaviour and the way you treat them. There's no point regretting as one saying goes "Tidak guna menyesal kerana nasi sudah menjadi bubur."So appreciate, people. 

Appreciate whatever your partner does for you. Don't ever take someone for granted. 

Not gonna blab so much about relationship as different people has different perspectives and point of views. 

PROVE IT. SHOW IT. DO IT.

Well this blog post is actually dedicated to Alicia, remember that you still have your friends, family to support you. We love you. 

Thanks for reading me blab, bye. 

Labels: effort, friendship, life

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